Even if you teach your kids not to give out their address and name, it can take only a few minutes for a predator to get all the information he needs in a chatroom. What can a predator learn from this conversation? If the predator is in the same chat room, he can see everything that's being said. There's more than enough information to find out the state and city being chatted about and he also knows the day, time, and place to find your kid. It's a date with disaster. Even worse is the case where Fleer IS the predator. By this point, the bad guy already has a relationship with your kid and his trust. He's even convinced your son to meet with him. It's so easy to assume that just because someone sounds nice online means that they can be trusted. But you need to convince your kids that just because you chat with someone for a long time doesn't mean you know them. There is a solid argument for outright banning Internet chat from your house. Not only is it a very easy way to get distracted from responsibilities like homework or housework, but the dangers of what can be said to and by your kids in fleeting conversation outweighs any benefit chat rooms might otherwise offer. A simpler and safer alternative is Instant Messaging.

Instant messaging has many advantages over standard chat:

• Privacy – IM is point-to-point communication. While it's possible to "eavesdrop" on an IM conversation, doing so takes far more skill and luck than most people possess.
• Selectivity – Because the only people that can talk to you are your "buddies" (assuming you haven't configured the IM software to accept chat from strangers), you will have a much better idea who you're talking to.
• Chatty kids can still have multi-person chat by adding other friends to the conversation.

Cautions

1. IM programs can be set to allow communications from anyone allowing you to "find friends" who share your interests. This usually involves entering some data about yourself into your profile, but I recommend against it. Not only does opening your IM this way make it no better than a standard chat room, it's actually worse since using the data entered, a bad guy will likely be able to guess some information about your kid (making it easier to strike up a conversation and build rapport). Also any IM user can instantly send a file (for example, a nude photo) to whoever they're talking to and there are different kinds of hacking attacks that can be launched through IM programs as well. To avoid your child receiving (or sending) risque photos or worse. As long as you keep their buddy list to family and friends (school friends, not "net" friends), you will be able to avoid most of these concerns.
2. In another scenario, say your kid's friend's name is Danny and one day Danny sends your kid a message that he heard five guys talking at school about beating your kid up the next day. What do you do? First remember that just because their screenname says "Danny" doesn't mean it's actually him. While actual hijacking of an IM account by a stranger is very rare, remember that anyone who's in Danny's house can get on that computer and talk to your kid as if they were Danny (parents, siblings, or any of his/their friends who happen to be visiting). Is it a prank or a misunderstanding? Call Danny on the phone and find out.

A forum is where a user will post a comment of some kind and the other users of the forum will be able to respond with their own comments. Often a discussion will ensue, though it's possible for it to devolve into a fruitless flame war (where users make personal attacks and argue off-topic). The advantage to forums is that they tend to be very focused on particular topics (for example, gaming, gardening, religion) and will attract users who are interested in those topics. They are also moderated which can keep out undersireable negative or inappropriate posters. Best of all, because what they write in a forum is permenant and viewable by anyone (including you), they are far less likely to post something you would disapprove of (especially if you warn them you'll be watching). I happen to be a big fan of forums as a way to work out ideas or communicate with like-minded people. They're also very useful for research and getting answers to specific problems. As opposed to chat rooms, you rarely have to deal with annoying random chatters who ramble on about useless off-topic stuff (in a forum, those kinds of people usually get banned). The one real disadvantage is what is posted lasts forever which can be a problem if they post something they'll regret. My advice for your kids (and anyone for that matter) is to always ask yourself "If I were to run for President one day, would this post come back to bite me?" before you hit the submit button.